Being a first-time mom is the most precious and monumental but trust me its- “HARD”. I had no idea what I was doing all around my first time mom experience. From pregnancy to birth and the motherhood stages even today, it’s all like a motherly wisdom’s magic infusion into me. In fact, more of being a parent, it was many episodes of Survivor. The times when I had bad backache, sore breasts, hormonal imbalances that made me cry for any petty reasons, first-time poo and pee clean, baby feeding, weaning, diaper changing, giving the tiny one a bath, and much more. Though my mom was always there to help I had nothing to reply and completely lost my mind many times like for the question- “Why is she crying?” Look, mamma, “My child has lost her mind, I am not able to understand her, and if you do please let me know… I am in bad trouble!”
No one is “expert,” but experiences definitely help in building your confidence & every mother develops their own tips and tricks of raising their lil one. Plus with time we just develop an attitude of being “OKAY” and realize the fact that of course none of the mum knows everything. #MujheSabNahiPata
Hence, it’s so rightly said, “Once A Mom Always A Mom.”
We being the first time parents were super obsessed with our lil angel. With that, there were also many emotions and transition like feeling depressed, angry, lost, confused… But that’s all part of the parenting process.
It became quite difficult to image the later stages, especially when I nursed my baby 35 times during the night and even more when she was unwell. The sleep crutches and sleepless nights were the worst part. Those made me realize “Is this my life now?” But as you pass the baby stages, you feel how fast it actually went. There are many beautiful surprises waiting your way through motherhood. [READ: My Child’s Best Friend: Her Grandparents]
Also being in India you have to know how to filter advice. India is full of Advice-givers and you get them very often even while grocery shopping, temple, relatives, friends, neighbors, transport, salon, I mean just anywhere. Being a brand-new parent, even a small question like, “why is your baby crying? Maybe she is hungry? Used to put me in a doubt, though I just finished feeding her. Every first thing about the baby was an Apocalypse- first ear infection, first green poop, first cold, and first scream. Later I realized I was “overreacting” and we took everything too seriously.
My first transition to motherhood has been a very rough ride but still enjoying the most beautiful phases. There’s lots more to come.
Love You Darling- Mishti
This post is in collaboration with All Out Campaign #MujheSabNahiPata. Mumbai Mom Bloggers got a chance to attend this very special event to discuss the societal pressures faced by every Indian mother while raising their child.
Panel members of The All Out Campaign #MujheSabNahiPata
- Mrs. Sonali Bendre (Actress & Author)
- Dr. Rupal Patel (Psychologist)
- Dr. Samir Dalwai (Pediatrician)
- Mrs. Ruchita Dar Shah (leads the mommy community ‘FMC’ – a Facebook Community)
Discussion started with the panel members about the societal conditioning that mothers go through in Indian society. Actress Sonali Bendre shared her own motherhood experiences and the constant struggle of moms for raising a healthy and happy child. Furthermore, the discussion headed towards child protection bite from mosquitos that can lead to a fatal disease such as Dengue. We were taken through an amazing All Out film with 25 million views in just 4 days!